When I arrive, then......

“When I arrive then....”

I have used this phrase or some version of it for years.

It seemed like an innocent or even sometimes motivating thought.

I did not know how this phrase was actually costing me my happiness in the present moment.

Think about it;

When I arrive then I will be so happy.

It means I will and can only be happy when I arrive.

It means the act of arriving will be better than where I am or the journey I’m on.

It means there, where I have arrived to, is better than the here where I am.

It has me sacrificing my current happiness or joy, for a future where I have arrived.

And what happens when I don’t arrive?

Sadness and suffering.

What happens to this happiness I have been withholding from myself?

What if there or where I have arrived to is still 50% positive and 50% negative?

We feel robbed, because isn’t there supposed to be better?

Isn’t there supposed to be perfect?

Isn’t that why we are going there?

Total mind fuck!!!

One little phrase can cause so much pain and suffering.

What if we stopped using this phrase and decided there is not any better than here?

What if we decided that we are on the journey and the journey is why we are here?

What if we decided that the journey is just as fun as the destination?

What if we have already arrived, because our past self created the life we currently have?

We have arrived!!

Let’s enjoy the hell out where we are!!

Here is a little Secret, there will only be as much fun as here 😉

Have fun my friends, you have arrived!!