One of the ways my clients work so much harder than they need to is their fear and avoidance of feeling emotions.

One of the ways my clients work so much harder than they need to is their fear and avoidance of feeling emotions.

Let us talk about a hypothetical client Susy.

Susy has experienced negative emotions in her childhood, sometimes from trauma or sometimes from the stories she told herself as a child.

The feelings were painful, and she created a protection structure to protect her from feeling or experiencing negative emotions.

This protection structure has worked for years and has kept her safe.

The problem comes because this protection structure makes her work harder and is exhausting, so she has a limited amount of energy and bandwidth left over after a regular day.

Susy has a desire to build a successful business and has a vision of the long time impact of the business on her children and the lifestyle it will afford her.

She approaches marketing her business and is taking the actions and is not getting the results she wants because she needs to be creative, think about her client, and visualize her client's pain points and the before and after effects of working with Susy.

It sounds simple when you have brain space and the capacity to be creative, but remember, Susy does not have that energy available to her after just surviving to get the basics done daily.

She is working hard not to experience negative emotions that her bandwidth is low, and really spending time in her client's brain and thinking creatively is exhausting.

My goal as her coach is to retrain her brain to accept and feel negative emotions.

To process the stories that caused the negative emotions and the process her default brain goes through when negative emotions happen.

This new pattern gives her back brain space, energy, and bandwidth to be creative and spend more time and energy on her ideal client and how to help them solve their problems.

This gives her back power and bandwidth to create the results she wants in her business and take care of herself and her family.

She can think creatively and implement systems and processes that create fantastic results while saving her even more, time and energy.  

She can make more money without working harder and longer, but she can also create a solid foundation for this to be her new normal.

She creates a system to create so much more in her life and live the life she dreamed of.

If you like Susy, have a dream and struggle, I can help you. Schedule a consultation call.