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Overcoming Emotional Resistance: Embrace Your True Potential (Part 3)

Do you often say, “I intellectually get that BUT…”? As immigrant businesswomen, you might be resisting or avoiding emotions, leading to mental and emotional exhaustion. Let’s explore how to overcome emotional resistance and avoidance to achieve your goals.

Do you often say, “I intellectually get that BUT…”? As immigrant businesswomen, you might be resisting or avoiding emotions, leading to mental and emotional exhaustion. Let’s explore how to overcome emotional resistance and avoidance to achieve your goals.

Questions:

  1. Are you unconsciously resisting emotions by pushing them away?

  2. Are you avoiding emotions by telling yourself more knowledge will solve them?

  3. Are you making emotions mean something personal and creating a story about them?

Strategies:

  1. Emotional Resistance: I teach you that emotions and feelings have energy. When we push them away, we cause ourselves more exhaustion. Understanding this helps you manage emotions better.

  2. Avoidance: I help you create a safe relationship to process emotions so that you can do the uncomfortable things. Your goals and desires matter, and emotions are part of the process.

  3. Understanding Emotions: I help you understand that humans have emotions. Our thoughts create most of the emotions, and we can learn from them to take inspired and aligned action.

Imagine no longer resisting or avoiding your emotions, but instead using them to fuel your actions and achieve your goals. This will lead to a more fulfilling and successful life with less mental and emotional exhaustion.

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Embrace Your Emotions: Understanding and Transforming Your Feelings (Part 2)

Do you find yourself saying, “I understand that BUT…”? Many of my clients, who are intelligent and hardworking immigrant businesswomen, struggle with understanding and embracing their emotions. Let’s explore how to transform your relationship with emotions to achieve your goals without mental and emotional exhaustion.

Do you find yourself saying, “I understand that BUT…”? Many of my clients, who are intelligent and hardworking immigrant businesswomen, struggle with understanding and embracing their emotions. Let’s explore how to transform your relationship with emotions to achieve your goals without mental and emotional exhaustion.

Questions:

  1. Do you make emotions mean something about yourself?

  2. Do you feel safe in your own body to feel emotions?

  3. Do you believe the thought or sentence after the BUT is a true obstacle?

Insights:

  1. Understanding Emotions: I help you understand that humans feel emotions. The key is to understand why we are having the current emotions. Emotions want to communicate to us why they are here.

  2. Safety in Your Body: I help you create safety in your body to feel and learn from your emotions. Building a safe relationship with your body and emotions allows you to learn from the wisdom and knowledge already in your body.

  3. Valuable Information: I help you understand that the thought or sentence after the BUT is valuable information from your brain. It tells you what it believes can be solved or needs to be solved, overcome, or worked through to create what you want.

Imagine understanding your emotions clearly, feeling safe in your body, and using your emotions to drive positive actions. This transformation will lead to greater personal and professional success with less mental and emotional exhaustion.

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Unlocking Your Potential: Creating a Safe Relationship with Your Body (Part 1)

Do you often find yourself saying, “I know that BUT…”? As highly intelligent and hardworking immigrant businesswomen, you might have all the knowledge, but still feel mentally and emotionally exhausted.

Do you often find yourself saying, “I know that BUT…”? As highly intelligent and hardworking immigrant businesswomen, you might have all the knowledge, but still feel mentally and emotionally exhausted. Let’s explore how to create a safe relationship with your body to inspire actions and achieve your goals without exhaustion.

Questions:

  1. Do you feel comfortable in your body to experience emotions that inspire actions?

  2. Do you believe that knowledge alone will create the results you want?

  3. Have you created a fear-based connection to emotions?

Guidance:

  1. Creating Safety in Your Body: I help you create a safe relationship with your body by feeling your emotions and creating the safety to take actions. This safety allows you to take more uncomfortable actions and move into areas that seemed very uncomfortable before.

  2. Belief in Action: I help you understand that knowledge or information is only a third of the result creation process. Applied knowledge through action creates results and wisdom.

  3. Healthy Relationship with Emotions: I help you build a different and safe relationship with emotions. Emotions are vibrations in our body, and everyone feels them. Building a healthy relationship with emotions moves us into taking inspired actions that bring us closer to our goals.

Imagine feeling confident and safe in your body, taking bold actions without fear, and seeing your business thrive. By creating a safe relationship with your body and emotions, you’ll experience less mental and emotional exhaustion and more success and fulfillment.

Download our FREE eBook to dive deeper into creating a safe relationship with your body and emotions.

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Why Success Doesn’t Always Bring Happiness for Immigrant Businesswomen

You’ve done amazing things as an immigrant businesswoman, but happiness still feels far away. This is common and understanding why can help you find true joy. Let’s look at three reasons.

You’ve done amazing things as an immigrant businesswoman, but happiness still feels far away. This is common, and understanding why can help you find true joy. Let’s look at three reasons.

1. Obstacles and Challenges

Many women are always busy but don’t see the results they want. The problem is often not finding the real cause. By figuring out if the problem is a thought, feeling, or action, you can fix it better.

2. Emotional Exhaustion and Fatigue

Feeling tired even after changing things? This tiredness often comes from hidden beliefs or “rules” you’ve picked up. Changing these beliefs to match who you really are can help you feel better.

3. Struggling to Feel Joyful

Achieving more but still not happy? Sometimes, chasing achievements stops you from feeling true joy. Finding and fixing these blocks can help you feel the good emotions you deserve.

Conclusion:

If you’re ready to change your life and find true happiness, download my workbook. It has questions and steps to help you find and fix these problems.

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Feeling Trapped in Your Business? Here’s How to Break Free and Earn What You’re Worth

Feeling Trapped in Your Business? Here’s How to Break Free and Earn What You’re Worth

 

Many immigrant businesswomen feel trapped in their businesses, unable to move forward despite their best efforts. This feeling of being stuck can lead to underearning and prevent you from achieving your full potential.

Feeling Trapped in Your Business? Here’s How to Break Free and Earn What You’re Worth

 

Many immigrant businesswomen feel trapped in their businesses, unable to move forward despite their best efforts. This feeling of being stuck can lead to underearning and prevent you from achieving your full potential.

 

Why This Happens: Feeling trapped often stems from cultural expectations, lack of support, or fear of failure. These factors can create a mental barrier that keeps you from taking the necessary steps to grow your business.

 

Example: Maria, an immigrant businesswoman, felt stuck in her small retail business. She was afraid to expand because she feared she wouldn’t be able to manage a larger operation. This fear kept her earnings low and her business stagnant.

 

Reflective Questions:

1. What specific fears or beliefs are keeping you from taking the next step in your business?

2. How do these feelings of being trapped affect your daily decisions and actions?

3. What support or resources do you need to overcome these feelings?

Next Action: Download our free workbook to explore these questions in depth and discover strategies to break free from feeling trapped.

Start by identifying one small step you can take today to move out of your comfort zone. It could be as simple as contacting a mentor or attending a networking event.

Ready to take your business to the next level?

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Unlock Your Potential: 3 Steps to Work Smarter, Not Harder

As immigrant businesswomen, we often find ourselves working harder than necessary. But what if we could achieve more by working smarter? Here are three steps to help you do just that:

As immigrant businesswomen, we often find ourselves working harder than necessary. But what if we could achieve more by working smarter? Here are three steps to help you do just that:

1. Turn Complaints into Requests

Complaints are not the same as requests. Instead of saying, “I don’t like how things are,” make clear, actionable requests.

Next Actions:

• Identify one complaint you have today and reframe it into a request.

• Practice making one clear request each day for a week.

2. Know What You Don’t Want and What You Do Want

Knowing what you don’t want is the first step. But being clear on what you do want is smarter. It directs your energy towards solutions.

Next Actions:

• Write down three things you don’t want in your business.

• For each, write down what you do want instead.

3. Start with the End in Mind

Think about the result you need. This clarity will guide your actions and requests. It’s like ordering at a restaurant: Instead of saying, “I don’t want something spicy,” say, “I’d like a mild, tasty dish.”

Next Actions:

• Visualize the outcome you want for a current project.

• Write down the steps needed to achieve that outcome.

Call to Action: Ready to take the next step? Schedule a free consultation call with me today and let’s unlock your potential together!

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How to Work Smarter, Not Harder: A Guide for Immigrant Businesswomen to Break Free from Over-Reliance on Others

As an immigrant businesswoman, you face unique challenges that can lead to feeling overworked and exhausted. But it doesn’t have to be this way! Here are some common habits that might be holding you back and how to overcome them:

Fear of Criticism and Judgement

  • Personal Life: Do you avoid sharing your true feelings because you’re afraid of being judged? Support yourself by practicing expressing your feelings with a trusted friend or in a journal.

  • Business: Do you hold back your ideas at work because you’re scared of criticism? Share one idea in a meeting and remind yourself that feedback is a chance to grow.

Wanting to Do Everything “Perfectly”

  • Personal Life: Do you feel stressed trying to make everything perfect at home? Set realistic goals and accept that it’s okay to make mistakes.

  • Business: Do you spend extra hours at work trying to make every detail perfect? Prioritize tasks and focus on what’s most important.

Being Dishonest with Ourselves Without Even Realizing It

  • Personal Life: Do you sometimes tell yourself you’re fine when you’re really not? Check in with your feelings regularly and be honest with yourself.

  • Business: Do you convince yourself that you need to work harder even when you’re exhausted? Recognize when you need a break and take it.

Procrastination and Putting Things Off for Fear of Messing Up

  • Personal Life: Do you delay tasks at home because you’re afraid of making mistakes? Break tasks into smaller steps and tackle them one at a time.

  • Business: Do you avoid starting work projects because you’re scared of failing? Set a deadline for starting and focus on progress, not perfection.

By addressing these habits, you can start working smarter, not harder. Ready to take the next step? Schedule a consultation session with me today and let’s work together to create a balanced and successful business journey.

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Unlock Your Potential: Work Smarter, Not Harder

So many immigrant businesswomen find themselves solving problems in their lives and businesses the same way: working harder, putting in more effort, spending more time, doing more things, or struggling harder. This approach works, but only incrementally. It might create 1%, 2%, or maybe 5% improvements, but it will never achieve 2X or 10X results.

So many immigrant businesswomen find themselves solving problems in their lives and businesses the same way: working harder, putting in more effort, spending more time, doing more things, or struggling harder. This approach works, but only incrementally. It might create 1%, 2%, or maybe 5% improvements, but it will never achieve 2X or 10X results.

 

To 2X or 10X your returns, you need to find easier, more effortless ways to get more bang for your time, thoughts, feelings, and actions. I help my clients identify what thinking, feeling, and action created their current results. I also help them identify what different thinking, feelings, and actions will help them create different results.

 

For example, a client may sometimes feel frustrated and bored and try to solve it by doing more things. I advise my clients to approach the feeling of boredom differently, believing it can unleash a very different experience. I encourage them to sit in boredom and be curious. I suggest they ask themselves different questions, such as:

 

  • What if it was 1% easier?

  • What would require 1% less effort AND still get me the same return?

  • What would I be thinking, feeling, or doing if I believed it could be less of a struggle?

At first, these questions will yield different solutions that will compound into a very different thought, feeling, and action cycle over time.

 

Let us start working smarter to create radically different results.

 

Ready to transform your approach and achieve extraordinary results?

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Achieve Your Goals Without Working Too Hard

We all face challenges when trying to reach big goals. These challenges can either slow us down or help us get closer to what we want. The choice is ours.

We all face challenges when trying to reach big goals. These challenges can either slow us down or help us get closer to what we want. The choice is ours.

 

I help people like you understand and overcome these challenges. Here’s how we do it:

 

Find the Cause: Understand what’s causing your challenges.

Plan Your Actions: Decide how to think, feel, and act despite these challenges.

For example, if you feel scared or doubtful, it’s easy to think you can’t reach your goal. I help my clients see why these feelings are normal, how to manage them, and what to do next.

 

Overthinking is another common problem. Instead of getting stuck in your thoughts, I help you figure out which thoughts are helpful and which are not, so you can take action.

 

Both ways involve hard work, but one will get you closer to your goals without wearing you out.

 

Are you ready to work smarter and reach your goals without extra stress? Schedule a consultation to start today.

 

Start Working Smarter Now

 

Let’s create the life you want while saving time and energy for what really matters.

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We will feel the feeling anyway. It will be uncomfortable either way; what uncomfortable do you want to have?

Accept that there will be uncomfortable emotions regardless if we go for our goal or if we play small and do not go for our goal.

My life was transformed when my coach told me, “We will feel the feeling anyway. It will be uncomfortable either way; what uncomfortable do you want to have? “

Want to work smarter?

Accept that there will be uncomfortable emotions regardless if we go for our goal or if we play small and do not go for our goal.

My life was transformed when my coach told me, “We will feel the feeling anyway. It will be uncomfortable either way; what uncomfortable do you want to have? “

Up to that point in my life, I believed there was a different emotion if I went for my goal versus if I quit and did not go for my goal.

What I quickly learned is there will be disappointment if I don’t go for my goal, or if I go for my goal, there is a chance I will be disappointed or a chance there will be uncomfortable emotions as I grow and stretch my capacity to grow my identity as the new version of myself.

I get to choose my uncomfortable emotions, but going for my goal also has the chance I will succeed.

Too many of us cause ourselves to work harder and longer when we choose the disappointment or discomfort of not going for our goals because we think these “known” emotions are “better” than the other emotions.

My friend, emotions are emotions, just vibrations in our bodies.

There are no emotions that feel “worse than’ other emotions.

Working smarter is choosing to feel emotions, process them and learn from them while we create our goals.

Working smarter is becoming emotionally strong by accepting all emotions and using them as tools in creating our goals.

Working smarter is going past our emotions to choose powerful uncomfortable emotions that will generate more results because we use our emotions for us.

Want to learn how? I can help you.

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Are the actions you are taking increasing productivity?

Want to start working smarter?

I identify if the actions you are taking are increasing your productivity or results or not.

I love taking action.

I love being very productive, and the more things I can do, the better.

Want to start working smarter?

I identify if the actions you are taking are increasing your productivity or results or not.

I love taking action.

I love being very productive, and the more things I can do, the better.

I also love learning and wisdom.

I WAS SO EXCITED when I first thought about a career where I get paid to learn.

Coaching pays me to learn and gather amazing information, with the positive side effect of my life and those of my loved ones and clients being impacted positively.

The problem happened when I was out of time and still had so many more actions and learning to do.

Time is finite and is limited.

So how was I to solve for this internal drive to do and learn more?

My brain came up with multitasking, but it led to me not being focused or not performing at my highest level.

Next, my brain chose to sign up for more time management classes and programs that would help me be more productive.

I was looking for more actions or knowledge outside of me.

My life was transformed when my mentor introduced me to mind management.

Not another action or knowledge, but a “cleaning up” of the thoughts, feelings, and actions I was already taking.

Mind management is like organizing but for the mind.

When I started using this tool and cleaning up my mind, my productivity and time management went through the roof.

Why?

I eliminated things that were costing me time, energy, and effort.

I could tap into my highest mind and use it to create faster results.

Faster than any time management or productivity tool I had learned till then.

It was the ultimate time management hack.

Turns out time management is all about mind management.

My energy level improved, and so did the results I was creating.

If you, like me, are trying to solve your productivity with another program or tool, send me a message.

Learn mind management and see the net positive impact on every area of your life.

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Have you ever questioned how some people can create or earn more than the average in 40 hours?

Have you ever questioned how some people can create or earn more than the average in 40 hours?

We are sold the concept that “The more you work/ harder/ busier you are, the more money you will make” or that “ to earn more money, we need to work harder or do more things” or “the more knowledge you have, the more money you will make.”  

We are sold the concept that “The more you work/ harder/ busier you are, the more money you will make” or that “ to earn more money, we need to work harder or do more things” or “the more knowledge you have, the more money you will make.”  

And these thoughts work until we start looking to double or 10X our income.

If our current money took us 40 hours, how will we double or 10X our income?

This is one of the questions I answer most in my coaching practice.

My clients are hard workers and solve their current business problems with similar thoughts that cause them to work harder and longer in the attempt to earn more money.

When they hire me, they are exhausted and/or burnt out, thinking of changing their big goal for a “reasonable goal.”

That is; one that their brain can solve the how many hours and how many things they can do to get the desired results.

Below are six concepts I teach my client to help them double to 10X their income in the same time as before:

1. We do audits.

These can be in the form of a time, money, or energy audit. We identify what they are doing that is not assisting them in creating their current goals and what can be eliminated or outsourced. We find where they have tried to add more actions, take on more tasks, or add more hours to increase income.

2. We evaluate their current level of emotional intelligence and grow their emotional maturity to support their new level of business or leadership.

Emotional intelligence is one's capacity to be aware of, manage and express one’s emotions to handle relationships with anyone and any result. Any growth in emotional intelligence has a positive impact on earnings.

3. We evaluate their current relationship with themselves.

Society teaches us to create more results; we must be harder on ourselves. When we are, it is like we are in the arena getting our ass beat, and when we are down, we have a knee on our own, backstopping us from getting back up. Unfortunately, most of my hard-working clients will be able to get back up, but it's harder when you are the one trying to keep you down.

4. To increase productivity or income, some of my clients will result in multi-tasking.

This was one of my biggest problems. I would be working on a project I deemed needed low attention and listening to a podcast or an audible. The problem is I was not focused and, thus, not tapping into my brain's highest creativity. When my clients and I block out focus time and create a no-distraction zone, we tap into our brain's highest wisdom and thought-creation ability. Our thoughts create money, so the more creative our thoughts are, the more money we earn.

5. We identify where some of their time, money, and energy is being spent, as some individuals will tie themselves to technology to get more done.

They are not present with family or friends because they need to respond to that one email or massage. We create a system that supports them when working and creative habits that support them when they are with friends and family.

6. We identify how they identify problems, how they solve the problems, and their current repeated solution to the problems.

Some clients will solve all their problems by throwing money at the problem. Others will hire individuals before they know the root cause of the problem, so it is unclear what they are hiring for. In comparison,

others will get more education or more knowledge. I help them not only identify the root cause of the problem but also to find the best solution to the problem. Sometimes the solution is feeling and processing uncomfortable emotions.

When we address these six areas, my clients not only start working smarter, but they also start enjoying the life and business they have.

If you are ready to start working smarter and not harder, I can help you.

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One of the most common thoughts I coach my clients on is, “It is not working.”

One of the most common thoughts I coach my clients on is, “It is not working.”

When my clients think this, they feel disappointed and defeated and want to avoid or blame their business.

This one thought keeps them spinning in disappointment and defeated, and sometimes they will say, “I am stuck” or “I feel stuck”.

The most hardworking and determined clients will start looking for more things to do to solve the problem and identify more things to do, change or adjust, but from the emotions of disappointment and defeat.

When I coach them, my first question will be, “What is “it” and what does “not working mean”?

When we identify these two things, we consider what they can do differently in their actions, thoughts, and feelings.  I am always amazed by their uniqueness and creativity from this simple clarification.

Some clients will look focus on their thoughts and beliefs.

Other clients will look at the value they are already bringing and increase the value in what they are doing.

Other clients will find ways to streamline their marketing and make it easier for people to understand how their service or product can help their people.

In comparison, another client will increase their offers or clean up their niche.

And these are just some of the amazing ways my clients have gone from disappointed and defeated to inspired, determined, and committed in one call with me.

Working smarter is more than doing more things or doing them faster.

Working smarter is asking different questions, thinking different thoughts, feeling different emotions, and sometimes doing different things.

Working smarter includes eliminating the “stuck,” getting things flowing, and creating more results faster.

If you are ready to start working smarter and not harder, I can help you. Schedule a consultation call today.

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Hope pretends to be a powerful emotion covered in a cloak of positivity, but it causes us to work harder and longer than necessary.

No one works harder than a hard-working woman who uses the emotion of hope to create the life they want. Hope pretends to be a powerful emotion covered in a cloak of positivity, but it causes us to work harder and longer than necessary.

No one works harder than a hard-working woman who uses the emotion of hope to create the life they want.

Hope pretends to be a powerful emotion covered in a cloak of positivity, but it causes us to work harder and longer than necessary.

Hope is one of my default emotions, and I usually need to check in with myself and my body regularly to ensure I am not using hope to create the life and business I want.

When I fall into the feeling of hope, I notice that I will either not take action or, in my brain, wishing and praying something or someone outside me will be different or take action.

When I am feeling hopeful, I notice that my go-to activities are signing up for another program, buying another book, gathering knowledge, and hoping someone in the world can solve my path to creating what I want.

When I learned my relationship with the feeling of hope was not inspiring intentional actions, I started choosing more empowering emotions like commitment, determined, confidence, and resolved.

From these emotions, I naturally find myself taking massive action, including evaluating the results I create to see if my actions could be even more effective.

From these emotions, I notice the ease of fully owning my success, future, and the life I want to create.

I choose to work on myself and who I am becoming in the world, which also fuels more intentional and deliberate actions.

Unfortunately, hoping sometimes works, and we can think of people who hoped life would be better, and it did.

The problem is that hoping, wishing, and praying does not work, creating resentment in the external thing we were looking to create the desired result.

Want to learn how to create more intentional and massive action fueling emotions like commitment, determination, confidence, and resolve? I can support you.

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We work smarter when we choose to make decisions and practice making more powerful decisions.

We work smarter when we choose to make decisions and practice making more powerful decisions.

Decisions are a way for us to work smarter as they help us create the lives and businesses we want without working longer or harder than necessary.

We work smarter when we choose to make decisions and practice making more powerful decisions.

Decisions are a way for us to work smarter as they help us create the lives and businesses we want without working longer or harder than necessary.

When we make decisions, we give ourselves the power to inspire aligned thoughts, feelings, and actions that will support us as we create the highest versions of ourselves.

Below are six ways we cause ourselves to work harder and longer than necessary.

1. When we do not make decisions and live on autopilot based on decisions made years ago.

When we think we must keep the same decisions a younger version of ourselves made 25 years ago, we obligate ourselves or our future self to choices that may not be aligned with our current self. We cause our present self feel resentful and unmotivated to show up as our best selves. We do not need to be married to the same person, live in the same house, follow the same career path, etc. But why would the current self choose it? Why would the current you decide to be married to the same person? Would the current you choose the same house? Would the current you choose the same career? Why or why not. Sometimes the answer is yes, and sometimes no. Just make sure you like your reasons for the you you are today.

2. Thinking there is a right or wrong decision.

The key to working smarter is learning that there are no right or wrong decisions but how we think about them.

3. We don’t make decisions ahead of time or honor them if we make them.

Making decisions ahead of time is using our highest brain to determine what our future self will do, and we build our relationship with ourselves when we set our future self up to succeed and then follow through with our word to ourselves.

4. Not making decisions as we think some decisions will be mistakes or lead to failures.

We are either winning or learning. When we make decisions, we will either get the result we want or learn so much about

ourselves and the process.

5. Thinking that the emotions that come after we make a decision mean it is wrong.

All decisions come with emotions; sometimes, emotions are a gift to reveal our current relationship with ourselves.

6. Thinking that making decisions takes time.

We make decisions in a second. Any time that came before we made the decision was most likely because of one or more of the prior beliefs about decision-making.

Ready to start working smarter by making powerful decisions? I am here to support you. Schedule a consultation call today.

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What do you do when you are stuck, doing the same thing and not moving forward?

What do you do when you are stuck, doing the same thing and not moving forward?

What do you do when your ideas, knowledge, and wisdom are not creating the desired results?

Before working with me, most of the clients would tell me – “the solution is to think of other things to do.”

What do you do when you are stuck, doing the same thing and not moving forward?

What do you do when your ideas, knowledge, and wisdom are not creating the desired results?

Before working with me, most of the clients would tell me – “the solution is to think of other things to do.”

Their solution is to use their brains to think of or cultivate more thoughts of things or actions to do.

Therefore, doing more of the same things that brought them where they are now, exhausted or burnt out from all the thinking and doing.

My most recent transformation did not come from more thoughts or more actions but from feeling my emotions.

The thought, feeling, and action cycle includes the feelings part.

Most exhausted and burnout individuals miss the valuable and amazing feelings part of the thought, feeling, and action cycle.

When I tried to over-action to try to bypass the feelings part of the thought, feelings, and action cycle, it left me missing the value of the feelings and how they play a part in all my results or lack thereof.

When I started connecting with my body and emotions by acknowledging them, feeling them, processing them, and allowing them to be part of the thought, feeling, and action cycle, my results flowed easier and faster.

This transformation of allowing feelings to be part of the work is how my clients and I start working smarter and not harder.

Working smarter includes feelings and using all aspects of the thought, feelings, and actions cycle.

Working smarter includes allowing our humanity and ALL humans have emotions.

Working smarter includes thinking powerful thoughts, feeling the feelings, and allowing the body to take powerful actions.

Want to start working smarter?

Acknowledge the feelings part of the thought, feeling, and action cycle and start using your feeling to take the powerful actions your body already knows to take.

Ready to start working smarter? I am here to support you. Schedule a consultation call today.

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Do you know you can be a very hard worker, always busy, and still be an underearning?

Do you know you can be a very hard worker, always busy, and still be an underearning?

Below are some common myths about underearners that you may be experiencing.

Below are some common myths about underearners that you may be experiencing.

1. Underearners are people who underwork.

Underearners may be some of the busiest, hard-working people you may have encountered. This may include you. They may be the person you see doing everything, volunteering their time, working overtime or multiple jobs, and being on all the committees. When I was an underearning, I was the first to raise my hand and volnteree to do everything for my employer. I believed the more productive and busy I was, the more money I would earn.

2. Underearers are people who are underachievers.

On the contrary, they are almost always overachievers but associate overachieving

with accomplishing many things. The mistake is not linking the achieving with our

earning protentional.

3. Underearners are people who have a low income.

The key to being an underearner is earning less than we want to and that we expect or

know we can earn. Thus our earning potential. An underearner can earn a million

dollars a year, but their earning potential is ten million dollars a year.

4. Underearners have low self-esteem or low self-concept.

One can have a high self-concept and still give their power away to others. They may know their worth and value and still not know their full worth and value by giving their power away to people, places and things or thinking their power is based on things outside them.

5. Underearners do not think of money or overspending.

Underearners think of money more than people who earn what they can earn because of their relationship with money. Underearners spend money to avoid their thoughts and feelings about money or start a business, work overtime, or get second and third jobs because of their belief about money.

When we work smarter, we understand why and where we are underearning, so we can change our patterns and earn what we want to earn.

Ready to work smarter and stop underearning? Schedule a consultation call today.

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We work smarter when we understand if we are underearning

We work smarter when we understand if we are underearning and what we need to do to start earning what we want to earn.

According to Webster, underearning is the act of “earning less than might be expected.”

Or, according to Barbara Stanny, “Someone who makes less than she needs or desires despite efforts to do otherwise.”

Some of my hard-working and very intelligent clients are also underearners.

This is because underearning is not caused by underworking, underachieving, or having a low income.

It is caused by our thoughts, feelings, and actions that cause us to underearn.

It is caused by how we may have been raised or programmed, which has us repeating old patterns that create an experience where we earn less than we can or want to earn.

Some of my past underearning patterns were undervaluing my time by undercharging for my services and expertise, undervaluing my skills and wisdom and thus not requesting to be compensated for the value I was providing, not asking for a raise or when I did accept the excuses given, or not following through with opportunities to earn more that were offered to me or came my way.

When we work smarter, we not only earn what we want to earn but also understand how to avoid underearning.

Ready to start earning more money in less time by working smarter? I am here to support you.

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Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

Six things the time management industry does not want you to know

Six things the time management industry does not want you to know and is causing you to be burnt out and make less money than others.

1. The concept of time is money.

Six things the time management industry does not want you to know and is causing you to be burnt out and make less money than others.

1. The concept of time is money.

Time is time, but the value we create in the time we have is what creates money. Money is created by the value we create using our minds.

2. We can manage time so that we can get more done.

Time is a mental construct; we do not manage time but actually manage our thoughts, feelings, and actions in the allotted time. Working smarter means understanding that we manage our minds and use our minds to create value in the allotted time.

3. Busyness and doing many actions make our lives more valuable.

Some actions or ways we spend our time are more valuable than others based on how much we think and feel about it. Creating a rewarding life is the experiences and value we create in the time we choose.

4. The more actions we take, or the more stressed and busy we are, the more productive we are.

Productivity decreases with time and the more busy and stressed we are. We can be more productive in 15 minutes by how we think and feel, by the valuable questions we ask ourselves, and by the problems we solve than someone who worked for 15 hours being busy and reacting.

5. The quantity of time spent on something increases the item's value.

The quality of a product, or the more valuable a product is, has zero to do with the time taken to create it. When we work on our minds through coaching, learning, asking powerful questions, and increasing our capacity to create massive value, we create unlimited money and opportunities for ourselves. One question or coaching session can forever change and make our life more valuable.

6. The more time we spend on something, the more productive we are.

Productivity is based on the result or finished product created. When we use our minds to create an outstanding finished product, it can use less time or be more effective than initially thought.

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Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

Managing our minds and emotions to create higher yielding results.

I have always been driven to achieve more and create more in my life, and nothing has had more impact on my life and success than how I manage my mind and emotions.

In the past, my emotions were the last thing I would consider.

I have always been driven to achieve more and create more in my life, and nothing has had more impact on my life and success than how I manage my mind and emotions.

In the past, my emotions were the last thing I would consider.

I would avoid, buffer away or resist my emotions and not see how these actions cost me time, energy, and success.

Worse yet, others would see how I was not in touch with my emotions and manipulate me and my emotions to get their way.

Lord knows nothing is more exhausting and time-consuming than trying to avoid, buffer from, or resist your emotions when you are in a toxic environment that triggers your emotions intentionally.

Most clients come to me to learn how to work smarter and want to learn the actions to take and not take.

I teach them the importance of their thoughts and feelings in driving all their efforts and inactions.

Before learning to manage our emotions, we can do 20 things and be exhausted.

And after learning how to manage our emotions, we can do the same 20 things or more and be energized and motivated to do it again.

If we convert the 20 things into high-yielding actions, they create more results in less time and effort.

For example, in a toxic environment, we stop being a trigger and have honest conversations that create lasting and permanent change.

We will be further along and less exhausted than before.

I help my clients work smarter by learning how to manage their emotions and convert the actions to guarantee more success.

Ready to start working smarter? I can support you along your journey.

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